5 little ways to feel happier

Sunshine and shadows in the garden
When was the last time you felt happy? I don't mean the little 'yessss' moments in life, like when there's a seat on the bus or the good cheese is on sale at Sainsbury's. I mean truly happy, the kind that makes you feel calm and content? For some people, that might be hard to answer. 

It's not that we don't feel happy in our day-to-day lives, most of us do. The problem is we're so busy thinking of yesterday or tomorrow that we don't stop to register the feeling properly. Just as the emotion hits it's chased away again by work, stress or a stream of over-active thoughts.

Since I've started learning about what it means to be mindful, I've realised my mind is often so preoccupied with the future (job, flat, life, money, ahhh) that I don't give it a chance to be happy with the present moment. Instead of crashing through life worrying about what's happening next, I decided to try being more mindful and to fully embrace the happy moments in every day. 

Below are a few things which I do to make myself more mindful so that I'm aware of the happy moments.

"Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your actions." – The Dalai Lama 

Golden afternoon sun always makes me happy
Nature
Being outside, surrounded by nature, is a good place to start if you want to feel happier. Remember the last time you were by the sea, watching or listening to the waves probably made you feel very calm. Back at home, away from the beach, it can feel a million miles from that calm feeling, but you can recreate it in your everyday life. 

Breathe in the cold, energising wind as it brushes your cheek on the train platform, notice changes to the light as you leave the house each morning, take ten minutes on your lunch break to walk through a park or notice the colour of the sky on your way home from work

Write it down
When I was travelling around India and Sri Lanka I kept a journal. Every day I wrote three happy moments, sometimes big and sometimes small, to keep me feeling positive (even when I was worried or homesick) and make sure I enjoyed my time away to the fullest. I never included a negative thought, if something bad happened I would change my attitude and say "I was really happy when we survived the overnight train..." It meant that during the day I would often think of how I could write each moment in a positive way. 

Keep a journal next to your bed and try writing one happy moment at the end of each day.

Stretch
Whether it's a sweaty class or 15 minutes of gentle stretches before bed, yoga always makes me happy and gets good energy flowing. It's not just about the endorphin-high which comes with exercise. It's the combination of deep breathing, connecting mind with body and using all your muscles. It's impossible not to smile after a good yoga practice! 

Don't be put off if you're not flexible or can't touch your toes, when I went to my first yoga class in Goa I was as bendy as an ironing board. Start slow with some breathing and basic stretches. For a more guided practice, I like Yoga With Adriene or Alo Yoga on YouTube.

Practice gratitude
I first read about gratitude when I was in Sri Lanka, in a book about the basics of buddhism. It's a way of appreciating and finding joy in what we have right now, instead of wishing for something to be different and believing that will eventually make us happy. The longer we spend living in the past or future, the more unhappiness will continue to grow. I do this mostly when I'm feeling like I need a boost and it always leaves me feeling more optimistic. 

In the morning or before bed, mentally list things you're grateful for. Or write them down in your journal. 

Eat something that makes you feel good
For me, sometimes that's a big bowl of fresh, crunchy vegetables with tofu and tahini and other times it's two helpings of homemade macaroni cheese. Listen to your body, only you know what you need. One evening in Sri Lanka I was so homesick, I couldn't get myself out of it. Jack said "what can we do to make you happier?" My reply was "I need dessert." As soon as I demolished a giant chocolate, banana and coconut roti with ice cream I was smiling again. 

8 honest truths about travelling in India

Beautiful Hawa Mahal in Jaipur looks like pink honeycomb

Ah, India – to mentally prepare for arriving in a country so fantastically diverse, bright, loud, beautiful and intimidating is almost impossible. but I found planning was the only thing that stopped me going in to full what the f**k are we doing? mode.

I was nervous to leave my job and our flat in Tooting (would I ever find a place with two bathrooms for decent rent again?!) to live out of backpack, take trains, sleep in questionable bedsheets and wash my knickers in a sink. I'm not good at the unknown. I needed to visualise and absorb as much information as possible to calm myself down. I found making spreadsheets, Word docs, Pinterest boards and reading blogs helped. The information stuck with me and I found it really helpful to know what to expect throughout our trip. 

If you're thinking about travelling around India and you're nervous, I hope reading this list can help you. 

After the first two weeks in India we knew we were in love with the place. Sure, it was a love that felt like a wave crashing on top of you, smashing you to the ground, disorientating you then dragging you back up again, but it felt so right to be there. It's an incredible place and I hope you love it too...

We walked around a busy, hectic corner in Jaipur to see these flower offerings for sale

The staring
The staring is intense in India and there will be times when you feel uncomfortable, but generally it's not meant to intimidate you. This is one of the most important tips I picked up and I used it a few times to reassure myself.

It's not considered rude for a man to have a good, long look into your face when sitting next to you on the train or for a group of children to gather round you with their mouths wide open in fascination. If you look a bit different or you're a blonde girl, expect it to be worse. Having blonde hair, blue eyes and pale skin meant I got a lot of looks. You'll be able to sense if the person staring is friendly, if you want to avoid eye contact that's fine but if you say hello to some nice women or children you'll be greeted with beautiful smiles and hysterical giggles.

Roads aren't as scary as you think
A lady we met in Kerala summed up Indian driving perfectly; it's like an orchestra. Everyone is doing something different – they're speeding, overtaking and honking their horn constantly – and it seems crazy but when it all happens together, somehow it works.

We might have just been lucky but we only had a couple of scary moments (one involving a cow on the motorway) but if you're worried you can always ask a taxi/tuk tuk driver to slow down.

India is the whole picture
I'm just as guilty as the next guy for posting travel pictures to Instagram and not telling the whole story. One example is the one above of dusky pink Hawa Mahal (Palace of the Winds) in Jaipur. What you can't see is three boys laughing and closely circling us while we looked a bit helpless because we'd heard it was a pick-pocketing hotspot. Plus the constant shouts of "madame, tuk tuk?" coming from the loud road. Be aware that there's no such thing as a perfect picture in India, that's it's charm! There is always mayhem behind the camera. 

The food is even better than you've imagined
Charred, fresh naan breads, tangy channa masala, rich cashew nut curry and creamy kormas... the list could go on and on. The food is mind-blowingly good, especially in Rajasthan where you can get a delicious vegetarian thali for only 150 rupees. Oh and the dal! Before going to India I thought dal was dull but after our first day in Delhi I realised how complex the flavours can be in such a humble lentil dish. My mouth is watering just remember it all.

The BEST vegetarian thali at Lotus Cafe in Udaipur – two curries, dhal, rice, curd, roti, papad and dessert for £2

There's a lot of scams
People are going to try to scam you in India, you might as well come to terms with that now! The key is being confident enough to stand your ground when you know something isn't right. When we tried to walk in to a restaurant in Delhi a man standing in front of the door told us "we're not open now, try that place instead." He wasn't anything to do with the restaurant we were going to, and it was open. Luckily we'd read about this scam so we laughed and walked right in. If anyone ever tells you your train, bus, hotel or taxi company is no longer running, has been burnt down or something similar don't listen and persevere.

Try to have a sense of humour about it, laugh it off and move on... if you don't do that occasionally India is going to drive you insane.

You will get used to the toilets
I never expected myself to say this but I did get used to them! I'm a clean freak and have been known to wash everything at home including the light switches with antibac spray so if I can do it, you can do it. Of course there were some horror stories (a cafe in Udaipur and one roadside hotel being some of the worst) but once I knew what to expect it didn't bother me as much. My top tip is always use the Indian toilets, they're much cleaner than Western ones... just remember to take your own loo paper! 

Life and death is everywhere
In a country that's bursting at the seams with people, animals, cars, shacks, noises and roads there is going to be death and you might see it. Unlike Western society it isn't something to hide away from, instead it's accepted as part of being alive. "If you live, of course you will die" is what our guide told me in Varanasi, a holy city where the dead are burnt on pyres by the Ganges. Don't be shocked to see a family walking past you holding a body wrapped in white sheet or legs poking out of a fire. Be respectful and put your camera away.

You'll be addicted by the time you leave
Brightly coloured, crumbling cities in Rajasthan, incredible food and the spiritual vibe which you can feel everywhere is what got me hooked. For you, maybe it will be the rich history or stunning treks. I promise there will be something about magical India which will leave you wanting more.

Everywhere you look in Rajasthan, there's something colourful. I loved this wall in Udaipur. 

Korean Prawn + Spring Onion Pancake

A few weeks ago Jack and I had a discussion – if you could only eat the food of one country for the rest of your life, which would it be? The conversation took us all over the world; spicy Indian dhal with warm roti, platters of Japanese sushi and bowls of soothing ramen, homely British food like roast lamb or smoked haddock, Vietnamese bao buns, the fresh lime and coriander flavours of Mexican dishes and, of course, proper Italian pizza with a crisp but chewy crust.

We kept coming back to Korean food. The big, bold flavours are perfectly balanced and every delicious mouthful is salty, spicy and tangy. Most dishes come with something on the side, usually pickled or fermented vegetables to add a vinegar sourness, which means you get loads of different textures in one meal. I'm all about textures; crunchy nuts, crispy chicken skin, soft egg yolk, slippery noodles – I'll take as many as I can get.

So we got our hands on Our Korean Kitchen by Jordan Bourke and Rejina Pyo and decided to get stuck in making Korean food at home. I love this book because it gives you a good from-the-ground-up approach to Korean home cooking and I genuinely felt like I was reading a collection of homely, frequently used recipes.

This pancake is one of the first things I made and after one bite I knew it was love. The dense batter clings on to every bit of prawny-garlicky flavour and keeps the spring onions (and there are a lot of them) in place. Marinading the prawns in a sesame-garlic mixture first means they taste incredible and the scattering of chilli adds spice without stomping out all the other flavours.

We enjoyed this on a Friday evening, stood at the kitchen counter with a few cold Silent Pool gin and tonics... what a delicious way to end to the week!